Wishing for a true lover in life?

By Sandeep Datta, April 18 , 2006

“I wish I had someone to express my love to”--Most of us nurture this feeling deep inside our hearts the moment we retire in bed or wake up long after the sunrise. Often we miserably fail to say it exactly to the person for whom it matters the most.

Instead of what we have nearest to our hearts, we blame on our luck and fail to notice the gem of a person so near but so far due to not being recognised by us.

We can blame it on psychology or the intrinsic greed to get fascinated or longing for someone completely unknown. Much similar to the tune of Bollywood's films of the 80's. Doesn’t it look like expecting from life to take a shape as any fictional work does?

But should our search go on till the feeling to love someone turns a nightmare of life? Or, should we learn how to find that person in our daily life? .

When lyricist Sahir Ludhiyanwi wrote the immortal song of the film Kabhi Kabhi, he would have never intended others to live in reveries and repent for an unfulfilled romantic dream. But most of us do so without realizing the person we long for is usually around.

We just need to learn how to recognize him or her. This requires us to close our eyes and recall the presence of those loving individuals who leave their indelible mark on our hearts due to their selfless role in our relation. Interestingly, most of us long for the best choice on earth but never realise the love is never about possessing someone for a momentary pleasure. It is about according the sincere appreciation, affection and respect for other individual’s presence in our lives.

To many individuals, it may not be a fair deal. But what’s the beauty of one’s love if it doesn’t evolve an urge to sacrifice the best pleasure just for someone’s sake?Or, is it simply a convenient medium to cover up one’s lustful desire?

Love is far bigger concept than possessing someone without winning a heart full of respect. The physical intimacy may be a part of loving expression but not the sole objective. Irrespective of gender, age or species, we have to have the true affection for others. And, with deep love inside your mind, you cannot nurture hatred for others.

You just care and understand others’ point of view.But it is surprising to notice people await for a day to make others feel it but fail to convey rest of the year. For, we may have never thought what kind of person do we actually deserve.


We may be waiting for a handsome macho man or a Hoor from the other world but do we wish to spoil another full year with such vague thoughts. We need to feel his or her presence around us.You may have been spending most of your time with that special person in life but never realised it. Just think about the person who is always ready to give you and enjoys every moment spent with you.

Or, think of the person who did everything but never complained to you for not respecting his or her presence around you in the past.Just think, think and rethink. The extraordinary person of your life may be just awaiting for you. Realise and accept with open arms his or her affection and sense of care irrespective of temporary physical beauty.

Just feel that ecstasy of being loved by someone truly loving instead of chasing someone who isn’t even ready to accept that you even belong to his or her personal world.

Nobel Laureate Gabriel Garcia Marquez said: True Love is not blind. It sees everything, and still continues to flourish." Is it really true?

YOUTH FOR EQUALITY YOUTH FOR EQUALITY

Doctors’ strike, a national embarrassment!

By Sandeep Datta

As I was about to enter my kitchen at 11.45 at night, an SMS buzzed: “Ab tak 112!” It was one of my journalist friends circulating for the doctors’cause briefly indicating their plight. I stepped back and started visualising what our agitating doctors would be doing like at this odd hour of the dark and rainy night? Will they be enjoying a gala time in this romantic atmosphere with colleagues or filling their empty stomachs with delicious food in the hiding?

Well, for enjoyment sake I called up at AIIMS to verify how things were going on in reality. I was flabbergasted after talking to a few highly exhausted voices on phone. I was informed at least 22 agitating students and junior resident doctors were still there, protesting a gross injustice being done to them with a proposed bill by the Centre intended at ostracizing the meritorious doctors.

As most of us would switch TV channels to avoid “striking doctors”, they are living it in reality. They are suffering enormous pain with each passing hour as 112 of the 134 protestors have already collapsed braving the day’s heat in the open. Believe it or not but they showed their iron will for one week (read 2,41,920 minutes or168 hours), without a piece of bread. For a hungry a hungry stomach and fainting soul every moment matters.

The ones, who were persuaded to leave All India Institute of Medical Sciences, have left their struggle for others to continue. These brilliant doctors in the making know they cannot match social activist Medha Paktkar who showed how to turn a protest embarrassing for the Government. For, they are just like you or me or our brothers or sisters at home or in colleges.

By they way, how many of us would dare such a feet for more than 48 hours for our right? Many of us could feel the pangs of hunger if we had ever tried a fast at home. But this time, it appears a fast unto death for these budding doctors.

But who cares? We are not doctors. Why should we show support? They are not earthquake or flood victims. They are not either any of our family members. Isn’t it?

Really? Will good doctors benefit us in the long term or anybody else’s family? Aren’t these individuals those “saviours” who would ultimately stand as an iron shield between life and death of any of our beloved family members in emergency? They are the ones whom we would look forward to as God’s ultimate help. But how callous our political leaders are turning out to be? Although it is the VVIPs like our politicians who would desperately search for the best trained hands in medical fraternity. For, they can’t chances with any quota-tagged doctor of suspicious academic ‘excellence’.

If we have ever got benefited by a doctor, it is time to show gratitude. After all it is not Union Minister Arjun Singh who would get treated by a doctor from an OBC (or, other backward class) category, it would be us or our family. If we failed to express our solidarity to these suppressed doctors today, we would only be ensuring a tragic careless death by any raw hand of an OBC doctor in near future?

Let’s rise to the occasion like an awaken society and support these doctors lying on the road!

Anything’s possible! Just be united !

By Sandeep Datta, Email: sandeepdatta7@rediffmail.com

Miles to go before I sleep....

I am here to visit your dream world with silent moves. I am looking around as a person who wish to contribute but don't know in which direction to move. If you allow, I can decorate your world with unimagined pearls of wisdom and affection for all.
Just awake from your sleep, this visitor has approched to know and feel every thought that you treasured for so long.
I will see to it that I empathise every thought and express it all. But before I begin the odyssey , i see a long road ahead of friendship and I HAVE MILES TO GO BEFORE I SLEEP.....

What makes us special ?

We are special. We are needed and we are on this planet for a cause. If, this is what we claim to know, how can we allow any individual to judge our worth as per his or her level of judgement?

Be it air, water, birds, animals or friends everything holds a distinct meaning to us despite what others have told us to believe in. This shows our nature to perceive things has significance regardless of what others' feel about it. Then, why do we allow others to take us for granted at times? Who are they to show us the world through their eyes ? We all agree to these questions but how many of us keep it in mind when the chips are down ? Isn't it?

We can be kept in delusion for a short span of time but not always. To see everything in black and white, we need to awake and feel why we have been made different than any other human being? And why do we usually fail to draw respect and importance for being the way we are? Many of us know how, when and why to welcome and at times simply ignore others' views about our lifestyle. But most of the time we forget : It's our life. And , we have the full right to beautify us with our own chosen things, habits and creatures.

We must learn how to avoid others. We can do it if we strongly believe in our intuition that helps us through common sense. The great spiritual leader Osho said it, not me.

Interestingly, the people who are called "Great", were those who always believed in their strengths much before others reminded them. They listened to others only to know about others' less revealed personality or thoughts. But they never started beliving in everyone's consideration of them.

Success is always possible for each one of us. We don't realise it because we await somebody to come and tell us how much capable we are in comparison to our peers. Isn't it regretful that despite not having any disability, we feel crippled in difficult situations. It is always easy to give up but it takes a real man to take on the problem and view it as opportunity to move ahead of others. We all have basic facilities to support our survival but we have to realise how to utilise it in the best manner. Remember! It is usually the middle class youngsters who reach the top, not the rich man's son or daughter. For, the ones, who face difficult situations they know how to handle them in after life too.

By being open and sharing thoughts with like-minded people we can always enhance our level of understanding.

Many a times even such things do not work. But nothing beats the time we spent in introspection (popularly as meditation) with complete silence and solitude. It is when we learn listening to our soul that we realise how much beautiful and special we are.

We look for others who are chasing some others. We don't realise that the minute we stop running after the mirage, the impossible looking aims turn around and search us with desperation.

We are more important than anybody else around. People may see where we are today but we should look at ourselves where we can be. Let there be no one take us for granted even for day. For, we are a visitor not slaves on a planet, which is overcrowded with billions of people who need extraordinary special persons like us.

We never fail but constantly improve by some degree with each experience. The moment we are born our personality begins getting affected by all those who come close to us. Irrespective of our relations with others, our personality takes shape due to the kind of individual beings and situations we come across. Isn't it something that really makes us so different or special than others?

We just need to feel our extra special being hidden in ourselves before anybody does it for us. There are hundreds of people having minimum education, abilities, looks or support, but they do rise in life. Do you know why ? It is because before anyone tells them about their latent potential , so late in life, they have already learnt it by themselves in their own mirror at home.

Indeed, it is a fascinating planet of possibilities and hope. But we have turned blind to see hope. The journey which should have been celebrating by travelling all alone with full freedom, has failed even to take a start because we are searching for somebody to join or push us. Can there be more foolishness than this ? We are all intelligent more than our academic or professional excellence. We have to just start realising all this sitting alone.

By: Sandeep Datta
Email: expressive_sandy@yahoo.co.in